Consider their Feelings and Don't Take them for Granted

When you take someone for granted, you may feel he/she is at your command any time. This may drive you to ignore or to distance yourself from him or her, or may be seek a different person. At this moment the person you took for granted starts wondering:
Am I no more important in his or her life.
Am I causing him or her a burden to care for, while he or she doesn't really care.
On the other side, you may say:
I no more accept the ties I'm bounded by.
I may just go away.
I don't have to emotionally depend on this or that person.
I know that whenever I'd like to be back, I'll find this person at my command.
This usually happens between family members.

On reaching a certain age, adults may feel that they no more depend on their parents. They start seeking others like friends, husbands, wives or distance themselves by any other ways from their parents. They don't feel the pain digging inside the hearts of their parents. They may feel that their parents are obsessed by controlling their lives. This might be true to a certain extent.
Some parents give their children their freedom from an early age. However, once the parents feel their children are getting out of control, even when they reach an old age, they get hurt.
Children, on the other hand, see that their parents don't have the right to that pain and they are overreacting. But when the children become in their parents' shoes, they start feeling the same. Parents actually feel that their children are taking them for granted; doing whatever they want without caring for their parents' opinions, since they know that whatever happens their parents will never go away.

It is only when you live alone without any connection to your family, you start longing for their opinions. At this time, you may not be able to reach them. Then only, you will start feeling you shouldn't have taken your parents for granted. You start thinking back in the times when you let your parents down thinking they are overreacting.

The only way out then is to know that you will never be able to ignore your parents, since one day you will need them. You may seek their opinions even if you are decided on a certain thing. Think of these opinions objectively. Get rid of your arrogance. If not convinced, don't do it but show them that you considered their opinions and they mean much to you. Show them they are still part of your life and still have an effect on it. They deserve to feel that always, since they know that they are the most ones who cared much for you, helped you through all your ordeals, and still caring. They need to keep feeling so. If they lost this feeling, they get frustrated and feel that whatever they did was useless.

Consider their feeling and don't take them for granted.

Parents from their parts must from the very beginning understand that their children are like the birds; when they grow up they will leave their parents' nest. Hence, when you become a parent don't centralize your whole life on your children. Don't only give them some space but also give yourself some space away from them. Track for yourself another goal of life away from your children's lives. Let it be a work goal to assert yourself or even try to achieve a personal wish like traveling all over the world. Have something for yourself. It is not wise to live for your children and only your children. Some day they will be no more children just like you.